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Stop trying to be positive

I’m a positive person. I put the effort into staying optimist and upbeat in every situation. Lately, I’ve been learning a lot about emotions, trauma and healing and this has caused me to question my “be positive at all costs” mindset.

Can you be positive all the times? When you feel like not being positive, what should you do? Should you pump yourself up and try to stay positive? By default, my response has always been to brush aside the negativity and focusing on being positive.

By what if there is another way? What if you could take a moment to acknowledge the negativity? How do you feel? Why do you feel that way? Are you justified in feeling that way? Is it that bad? Jumping to positivity straight away without taking time to tackle the negative emotions seems to me like some form of emotional suppression or avoidance. Do you know what happens when emotions get suppressed over time? Boom! Here comes the ugly emotional explosion.

I see why we fall into the trap of “positivity at all costs” mindset. Positivity is preached everywhere. No being positive is the new “smoking”. No one teaches you to learn how to acknowledge then confront your negativite emotions? We just want you to snap out of it quickly because non one us like to be sad or even worse be around sad people.

Off course I’m not proposing that you stay grumpy forever and start escalating? I’m just suggesting that you learn to acknowledge and challenge your emotions. It’s worth a shot, right?

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John Kiama

On this site, I share everything I've learnt (and still learning) from my personal and business growth. Hopefully, my life lesson can help can get to your goals faster, without making the same mistakes I’ve made.

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